Have we become masochist?

Ever been in love with someone but never “officially” been in a relationship with them?? Or broken up with your EX and continue to be part of their life? 

You come there confident, their shoulder to lean on, you get to hear about their new love interest and how much they mean to them…. And well sometimes there is a 99.9% change you come the BEST FRIEND WITH BENEFITS (NO ATTACHMENTS) ❤ Many do not mind the obvious and most important benefit of the hassle free sex, this usually means neither mind to have any emotional involvement this often ends bad because after time you do get emotionally attach… And shit hits the fan because he obviously has no emotional attachment to you only to your boobs… and your MEOW 

How and why do we do this…. My answer is I do not know maybe not to lose touch with them… because the love you have for them becomes bigger than you and their happiness is all you want… So you sit there give them LOVE ❤ advice hold in your tears and continue as if you have no feelings… You become a masochist, yes I said it right a Masochist of your feelings… A masochist that you will not leave because you are afraid to lose what you have and you rather continue to be hurt and heart-broken… 

 We all need to take a moment and get a mirror look at ourselves… yes we might be broken but we are beautiful inside and out and valuable we do not settle for the “friend” label we deserve more than that walk away… 

Even a broken heart is able to heal with time… ❤




Does our loyalty become slavery?? Does our love get taken for granted??

Is it good to show your love for him all the time?? I have always asked myself this question my first boyfriend the love of my life was a total asshole yet I let everything slide because I LOVED HIM…. Now was it his fault that I let everything slide?? Absolutely not it was mine for believing in love and believing he would change someday. After a year of tears and more tears and sadness I decided it was time to stop fighting for someone who was not going to appreciate my effort. Their was no effort on his behalf so I realized he did not deserve me and I sure as hell deserved better… 

BUT WHY? Did he take advantage of my love for him or was I stupid for showing him all my love??  I do not have an answer yet I am still trying to figure that out… But what I know is that he taught me a valuable lesson and that was to ❤ LOVE MYSELF! 

If a man is attracted to you, he will sleep with you first and figure out his feelings later. Us women do not operate this way… which is sadly why we are still perpetually surprise that they do…

 Most guys are hard-wired to want sex, just like most women are hard-wired to want real love. Unfortunately we both will do pretty much anything to get it. That does not mean a guy may not love you. 

How to sort out the good guys from the bad…Here is a clue or two 🙂  

Pay little attention to what a guy says to you. Look at how he treats you. If he is attentive, caring and respectful then you are on much safer ground. Guys know that you love hearing the words, so they will say them. But if he cannot be bothered going out of his way for you, then does he really care? The answer is NO so do not waste your love on someone who does not deserve it… MOVE ON

So just love, make mistakes after all that is what life is for have wonderful times but never EVER second guess your value…HE WILL NOT CHANGE… MOVE ON find someone who will love you no matter what do not become a slave of a love that does not exist….  But if you find someone who loves the way you love, well that is just fabulous ❤

Keep Loving and do not forget you are the most important equation in a relationship it takes two to tango 🙂 ❤



Wild Sex…. Or magician Sex??

As he walks in the house I have my panties in hand and I am ready for him, I ask “him does this excite you?” 

Great sex isn’t just the sweet amber nectar of life it’s often the glue that holds the entire show together. But what if that sweet amber nectar isn’t even there to begin with? Seriously lets blame Fifty Shades Of Grey and amazing love machine Christian Grey ❤  A functional sex life no longer passes muster. To feel like we’re getting any bang for our buck in a relationship, I want lol and feel that mind-blowing sex is the bedrock of any relationship that will go the distance. Sometimes all we really want is a nice spank (wink) BUT what if we ask for it and he gets scared and takes out his bible…. Now that is a risk lol 

So how to we get mind-blowing sex without scaring them off or making them think we are porn stars… Everyone has been to bed with someone who has an arsenal of skills and moves that they deploy with the flourish of a magician.

How about role play buy some nice lingerie and make the moment magical, by magical I do not mean that he poof disappear. I mean make that man crave you, make him wish he could kiss every inch of your body, make him need you… 

Oh you want me to tell you how… hahaha if I knew how I would not be writing this late I would be having Christian Grey inspired Sex ❤ 

“Sex is a form of self-expression and communication so being ‘good in bed’ is not about a set of skills but more about a way of being,”  The only advice I can provide is by taking responsibility for your own pleasure and for what goes on for you, both physically and psychologically, is key in this. And of course to feel comfortable sexually, you need to be comfortable with yourself. 

So love your self your and enjoy some wild sex ❤ 



Or maybe throw your panties……

Have you ever been lucky enough to be in love? To have someone that makes your days and nights. Have you ever wondered what it is to be loved?? Or what love feels?? Do we really know the true meaning of love? I can continue with a million questions yet I will not have an answer for them. 

Sometimes I wonder if we have become romance intolerant do we know the true meaning of love or have we gotten use to the crumbs that SOME men (relax guys I know some of you are good) now seem to provided. Seriously where are all those chivalrous men. I refuse to settle for crumbs I demand a challenging, significant relationship. My heart skips a beat and every time I attend a wedding and think to myself someday that will be me someday I will walk down the aisle and marry the man of my dreams… When it comes to relationships I sometimes think that maybe we are all in glass house and should not throw stones because you can never really know what can happen if you throw that stone to hard…Or maybe you should just throw your panties at it see if it reacts and loves you better.

xoxo KC